Authenticity at work is often misunderstood. It doesn’t mean everyone has to know your life story or that your coworkers need to become your best friends. Authenticity is about feeling safe enough to be yourself without fear of judgment, exclusion, or negative consequences. It’s about belonging, not oversharing.
What Does Authenticity Look Like?
I’m a huge advocate for authenticity. My dissertation topic, before tragically quitting my PhD program (RIP to her) even centered black woman and barriers to authenticity. So I’ve done so much research in the area. Through all of my readings, one conclusion stood out. Life is far too short to hide who you are. Navigating corporate spaces is strategic, yes. But strategic doesn’t need to mean fake. I believe you’re capable of being exactly who you are and play the game.
Despite all of that — Authenticity means showing up as you are, with the confidence that your individuality is valued. It’s being honest about your perspectives. It involves embracing your unique communication style and setting boundaries.
But here’s the key: authenticity requires discernment.
You don’t need to share every detail of your personal life or make yourself emotionally vulnerable with everyone. In fact, you shouldn’t. Literally, do not do that. Instead, it’s about being genuine in your interactions and honoring your values, all while maintaining a level of professionalism.
Authenticity Is Not:
- Oversharing your personal struggles in the wrong context.
- Seeking validation from everyone you work with.
- Expecting to connect deeply with every colleague.
Authenticity Is:
- Feeling safe to express your thoughts without fear of ostracism.
- Upholding your boundaries without guilt.
- Having the freedom to say, “This is who I am,” even when you’re not aligned with everyone else.
Why It Matters
When authenticity is valued in a workplace, employees are more engaged, creative, and productive. People don’t waste energy pretending to be someone they’re not. However, authenticity also thrives when paired with discernment—when you can share who you are while respecting workplace dynamics.
So, remember: authenticity isn’t about being an open book. It’s about being true to yourself in a way that fosters trust, mutual respect, and belonging. You don’t need to be everyone’s friend, but you deserve to feel safe and seen.
So sister, here’s what I need from you:
Take a moment to reflect. Are you showing up as your authentic self at work, or are you masking parts of who you are? Think about one small way you can honor your values and boundaries while staying professional. Write it down, and challenge yourself to take that step this week.